Tell me if this sounds familiar.  You make a mistake at work and you cannot stop thinking about it. You replay everything leading up to what happened, the decision you made, and all the ways you should have handled it differently. This has happened to me many times, both in my career and in my life. For years, I ruminated on my mistakes. I would beat myself up and worry constantly that it would happen again. Eventually, I realized why. I expected perfection from myself. If I

I have always worked hard. No matter what position I held, I prided myself on being the hardest worker in the room. At times, those endless hours and constant exhaustion took a real toll on me. I remember working on a project to rewrite and reorganize the policy manual for the Las Vegas Metropolitan Police Department. Every day I came into work and reviewed policy. It was grueling. I knew the work mattered to the organization, but I found myself exhausted and deeply burned ou

Tell me if this sounds familiar. You have had a long, stressful day at work. All of your nerves are fried. You drive home replaying conversations, decisions, and moments you wish had gone differently. Your body is exhausted, but your mind refuses to slow down. Even when the radio is on, you barely hear it. You arrive home physically present but still mentally at work. You walk through the door, and the stress does not stay in the driveway. It follows you inside. You are more

I remember being a new sergeant and getting called into my lieutenant’s office. He had received a complaint about one of my officers after a scenario-based training session. The issue wasn’t that the officer performed poorly. It was how he reacted to feedback. He became defensive, aggressive, and argumentative with the training staff. We talked through the complaint and what my plan was. I told him I’d counsel the officer, document the conversation, and offer guidance. It was

In 2015, a friend of mine convinced me to try Brazilian Jiu Jitsu. At the time, I was in great shape. I was lifting weights regularly, working in K9, and had boxed and trained Muay Thai before. I walked into Sergio Penha’s Brazilian Jiu Jitsu in Las Vegas with confidence. I thought, “I’m strong, I’m fit, this won’t be too hard.” That confidence lasted right up until the first live roll. Sergio paired me with his son, Eduardo, who I outweighed by 75 pounds. I remember thinking

I remember a conversation with my dad when I was a young officer. We were talking about tough calls, and he was sharing stories from his 30 years in law enforcement. He told me about calls that stayed with him, and then he mentioned that he never shared any of it with my mom. He didn’t want her to carry the weight of the horrific things he had seen. That conversation stuck with me. I talked to other officers from his generation, and they all said the same thing: Don’t talk ab

I remember the first time I felt fear as a leader. Even though I was a police sergeant, the fear I felt didn’t come from a dangerous situation. It was about how I was going to lead my team. I was promoted to sergeant in 2009. I was 28 years old, the same age or younger than everyone on my newly assigned squad. I went back to patrol because we weren’t allowed to promote from officer to sergeant and stay in K9 or any specialized unit. On my first night, I showed up about an hou

A month ago, I released a podcast called Put the Same Effort into Your Relationships as You Do Your Career.  You can listen to it here . In it, I talk about how easy it is to give everything we have to our work, to show up early, stay late, take on more than we should, and then come home with nothing left for the people who matter most. That message hit home for a lot of people, including me. It’s something I’ve struggled with throughout my career. For years, I convinced myse

Confidence is one of the most important traits of a strong leader. The best leaders project calm assurance to their teams, even in the hardest moments. When I was new to leadership, I wanted that same kind of confidence, but I didn’t know how to build it. I eventually realized it started with having faith in myself, my abilities, and my own record of getting things done. At first, I had to fake it. That might sound counterintuitive, but pretending to be confident is often the

In 2005, I went to the K9 unit in Las Vegas for the first time. I had no idea that working a dog would literally change the course of my life. Before K9, my goal was to become an undercover officer. My father had spent years in Narcotics, and I grew up hearing stories about undercover deals, dangerous operations, and large amounts of drugs being taken off the streets. I took every class I could to prepare for that path and even became a Spanish interpreter to make myself a st

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